Do’s and Don’ts In Parenting
1. Always listen for feelings underneath the words.
Me : When I have only one child, I excellently did this. Now that I have 3 young kids, sometimes I have a hard time to do it.
2. Allow your positive feelings (love for the child) to take priority over anger.
Me : Hmmm.. I must admit sometimes I over react.
3. Listen, Listen, Listen!
Me : Sometimes it’s hard to listen when two children are talking at the same time while the baby is crying and there are urgent things I need to do.
4. Become aware of your feelings, and express them in “I” messages.
Me : Moderate
5. Don’t participate in an emotional escalation – walk away until you can stay in control.
Me : Yes, I do this when my emotion on high peek. It’s help.
6. Never resort to name calling. (“You dummy!”)
Me : Phew… I can say that I am excellent at this. I Never use name calling.
7. Don’t Judge or size up their character. (“You are so selfish!”)
Me : Moderate.
8. Don’t act superior. (“I told you so!”)
Me : Now I feel guilty. I constantly say this to my kids.
9. Don’t act on assumptions. (“I know exactly what you were doing.”)
Me : I did say this to my son sometimes.
10. Don’t talk more than you listen. (“I’m talking, you listen to ME!”)
Me : Ok… I really need to remind myself to talk less and listen more.
Pay attention to what I say to my children. My children trust me and believe in what I say. I will not use this trust to manipulate them or to fill my own needs.
What are your challenges as a parents? Happy Beautiful Monday!
It’s ironic that you say pay attention to your kids. Once in a while I would love to have my daughter actually pays attention to me for a change. Rearing kids is tough moreso, when u’ve got 3. Best of luck
Hi Maricris, Thanks for visiting and your comments. Yes, I would love my kids to pay attention to me too but it’s the words that I say to them that I need to pay attention. That is a challenge for me for being an impatient mum
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thanks for the tips!