Beyond Motherhood

1. Always listen for feelings underneath the words.
Me : When I have only one child, I excellently did this. Now that I have 3 young kids, sometimes I have a hard time to do it.

2. Allow your positive feelings (love for the child) to take priority over anger.
Me : Hmmm.. I must admit sometimes I over react.

3. Listen, Listen, Listen!
Me : Sometimes it’s hard to listen when two children are talking at the same time while the baby is crying and there are urgent things I need to do.

4. Become aware of your feelings, and express them in “I” messages.
Me : Moderate

5. Don’t participate in an emotional escalation – walk away until you can stay in control.
Me : Yes, I do this when my emotion on high peek. It’s help.

6. Never resort to name calling. (“You dummy!”)
Me : Phew… I can say that I am excellent at this. I Never use name calling.

7. Don’t Judge or size up their character. (“You are so selfish!”)
Me : Moderate.

8. Don’t act superior. (“I told you so!”)
Me : Now I feel guilty. I constantly say this to my kids.

9. Don’t act on assumptions. (“I know exactly what you were doing.”)
Me : I did say this to my son sometimes.

10. Don’t talk more than you listen. (“I’m talking, you listen to ME!”)
Me : Ok… I really need to remind myself to talk less and listen more. 

Pay attention to what I say to my children. My children trust me and believe in what I say. I will not use this trust to manipulate them or to fill my own needs.

What are your challenges as a parents? Happy Beautiful Monday!

Stress is part our daily life that we must go through. Sometimes stress is necessary for our own growth. Whether you are facing the stress at work, or at home it’s all required a solution. If you are a stay at home mom like me, I can definitely understand the stress at home that we are facing everyday. So what do you do? STOP NOW! You cannot think rationally when your mind is in a whirl!

Stop what you are doing.
Turn away from all distractions.
Open your Bible to a calming verse
Pray.

Nestle into the arms of your Saviour.
Open your heart to God so He can replace your anxiety with his peace.
When you are calm, return to what you were doing
- by Delwyn McAlister

Does it work for me? Absolutely (provided I condition my mind to deal with it right away!)  Try for yourself and if you have other ways of handling stress, I would love to hear from you.

Happy Beautiful Monday everybody!

I can’t remember where I copy this summary it was on my word document file and as a parent I am being reminded today.

1. Blessings of great joy and satisfaction exist for both the father and mother who properly train their children, while the cursing of great sorrow is the consequence to those who do not.
2. The soul life of each child is the creation of God, and God has a plan and a purpose for anything He creates.
3. God intends for children to be trained by their parents according to His standards.
4. Child training is dependent on the child’s respect for his parent’s position of authority.
5. The principle of authority was designed by God for the orderly administration of His plan for mankind and is totally under His control.
6. Parental authority is the most extensive of all institutions and includes the right to demand obedience from children.
7. The parents’ word is law to their children.
8. Parents are responsible to raise obedient and respectful children.
9. Parents are accountable to God alone for their rulership.
10. Children who honor their parents are blessed with physical prosperity, whereas those who rebel in overt disrespect receive the cursing of a living death and/or a violent end.
11. Parents must provide strong leadership for their children and stand responsible for their outside influences.
12. Parents are the symbol and representative of God’s authority to their children.